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An Open Letter To The Woman of My Reality

Hi Honey.

It may be a bit too early to call you honey, because we may not even know each other yet.

Or maybe I met you this weekend at the wonderful wedding Sacha and Scott put together.

Or maybe I know you already and we will meet when we need to meet to make the magic between us.

Either way, I’m really looking forward to growing with you.

By growing, I mean we both keep transcending our current selves and working toward a greater pillar (a greater purpose) we both mutually agree upon for our lives.

Bryan & Jennifer put it well during the Wedx Seminar, to make this third pillar to our relationship more important then anything else, even each other, even being right.

It’s worth being wrong sometimes to make sure we are aligned with where we want to go.

I had a conversation recently with a person after the wedding, he asked what kind of woman I truly desired in my life.

The must have qualities are here on my computer desktop.

the 5 qualities in the woman in my life

“My lover is:

  • Capable
  • Loving
  • Honest
  • Responsible
  • Supportive

And challenges me to achieve more and be better everyday.”

He asked me what quality can I absolutely give up out of these 5 if I never find the person who has all of them.

I told him, I will not give up a single one ever, because my belief is if I do, I will get what I choose and if I choose to give up one, I would only meet women with 4 of these qualities.

Which has been a reality for me for years to believe that it may be difficult to find these 5 qualities present to a great capacity in one person.

Though now I know it’s not true at all.

What I know as true is that there are millions and millions of women who have all the qualities I’m looking for.

I’ve already met a ton of them already. Some of them married, some of them in relationships, and some of them single.

I was in a rush to have something before. I would lower my standards and get whatever I lower my standards to.

The last year or so, I’ve consistently raised my standards and experienced a lot of different perspectives and experiences.

It has helped me realize that there is a woman of my reality (yea I use to call it woman of my dreams) who is just waiting and growing and ready to meet me when I’m truly ready.

Maybe you’ll read this someday or maybe you won’t, though I’m truly excited to be with you and I know you are truly excited to be with me.

There is a lot I can learn from you because my reality is different than yours and yours is different than mine.

My commitment to you is to always grow as a person with you and create magic together, whatever that really means to us.

I’m ready to give you my gift of change as Nathan and Amber mentioned during Wedx. I’m ready to receive yours too.

I’m in no rush. I know we’ll meet soon. I’m just so excited so I had to write you a letter.

With love,


Bobby Huang

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Bobby Huang creates videos and content to help his readers get the most out of their lives. He focuses on getting the most results with the least effort in Information Products and Passive Income. It's not lazy, just called being effective bro.

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