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Lifehacks Marketing Psychology

Why “Do What You Love” Is Wrong To Tell Anyone

I was just reading an article today and it had a lot of different tips by entrepreneurs and this showed up at least 3 times in 7 tips.

They say, “do what you love.”

That’s completely wrong.

Especially when we tell that to a person who doesn’t really know what we mean.

Many entrepreneurs assume another person knows exactly what we mean when we say it.

Most people who hear that phrase have objections such as:

“People don’t make money doing what I love”

“People won’t pay me for that”

“It’s not possible”

Basically what happens here is a piece of advice is given that is not able to be understand by the average person who doesn’t read or study methods to do what we love and make money at the same time.

But even then, there are many things we love doing that we are not able to make money with.

It would be crazy to expect to make $1,000,000,000 by just watching TV all day. We might love watching TV but it’s not going to make us successful.

What entrepreneurs do when they truly love what they are doing is they consciously chose to do something and started to love it later.

It also happened to be profitable or someone showed them how to make money doing it.

For example, a lot of people don’t start out loving the new CD of an artist they like.

They listen to it, and it sounds ok, but as they listen to it more and more, they start liking it more and more.

Repetition causes us to view things differently and maybe even love what we are doing.

Many entrepreneurs don’t start out liking marketing. Some absolutely hate it.

But personally, I didn’t know anything about it and I always thought marketing was for scum bags.

Then I discovered all marketing really is when boiled down to an ethical way of doing things is to help people find solutions to their problems.

And now I spend 8 hours a day or longer helping people find solutions to their problems and I LOVE to do this. And I make money at the same time.

Marketing aligned with where I want to be in life which allows me to love it.

I wouldn’t love tricking people or creating marketing for something I don’t find good and ethical (I have turned down many deals worth a lot of money on this basis).

What I’m basically saying is this.

We can become very successful by doing what we love, though usually we have to truly find out what we love to do and many times we have to start loving what we do learn.

That means, sometimes we start doing something we hate or don’t like at all, though doing it over and over again, we start to like what we do and it has a bigger meaning to it for us.

For example, Zig Ziglar talks about in one of his tapes about a positive Doctor.

Zig says we should find a positive doctor who follows his own advice.

Zig had a thin athletic doctor that told Zig he could eat whatever he wanted to eat to lose weight.

He was just going to give Zig a list of what Zig was going to want.

So when someone says, “Do What You Love” sometimes it means to love what you do, then doing what you love becomes true.

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Bobby Huang Lifehacks

An Open Letter To The Woman of My Reality

Hi Honey.

It may be a bit too early to call you honey, because we may not even know each other yet.

Or maybe I met you this weekend at the wonderful wedding Sacha and Scott put together.

Or maybe I know you already and we will meet when we need to meet to make the magic between us.

Either way, I’m really looking forward to growing with you.

By growing, I mean we both keep transcending our current selves and working toward a greater pillar (a greater purpose) we both mutually agree upon for our lives.

Bryan & Jennifer put it well during the Wedx Seminar, to make this third pillar to our relationship more important then anything else, even each other, even being right.

It’s worth being wrong sometimes to make sure we are aligned with where we want to go.

I had a conversation recently with a person after the wedding, he asked what kind of woman I truly desired in my life.

The must have qualities are here on my computer desktop.

the 5 qualities in the woman in my life

“My lover is:

  • Capable
  • Loving
  • Honest
  • Responsible
  • Supportive

And challenges me to achieve more and be better everyday.”

He asked me what quality can I absolutely give up out of these 5 if I never find the person who has all of them.

I told him, I will not give up a single one ever, because my belief is if I do, I will get what I choose and if I choose to give up one, I would only meet women with 4 of these qualities.

Which has been a reality for me for years to believe that it may be difficult to find these 5 qualities present to a great capacity in one person.

Though now I know it’s not true at all.

What I know as true is that there are millions and millions of women who have all the qualities I’m looking for.

I’ve already met a ton of them already. Some of them married, some of them in relationships, and some of them single.

I was in a rush to have something before. I would lower my standards and get whatever I lower my standards to.

The last year or so, I’ve consistently raised my standards and experienced a lot of different perspectives and experiences.

It has helped me realize that there is a woman of my reality (yea I use to call it woman of my dreams) who is just waiting and growing and ready to meet me when I’m truly ready.

Maybe you’ll read this someday or maybe you won’t, though I’m truly excited to be with you and I know you are truly excited to be with me.

There is a lot I can learn from you because my reality is different than yours and yours is different than mine.

My commitment to you is to always grow as a person with you and create magic together, whatever that really means to us.

I’m ready to give you my gift of change as Nathan and Amber mentioned during Wedx. I’m ready to receive yours too.

I’m in no rush. I know we’ll meet soon. I’m just so excited so I had to write you a letter.

With love,

 

Bobby Huang

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Lifehacks Psychology

Quora Question: What does it really mean to stop chasing money or you’ll never get rich?

What does it really mean to stop chasing money or you’ll never get rich?

So I’ve heard this a million times and to chase your passion blah blah. I have turned this quote over and over in my head, what does this really mean? I chase money and it is my biggest dream in life to become really successful as my biggest passion is cars and I want to be able to own and work on any car I wish.

I am perfectly happy and grateful with who I am and what I have. However, I always see myself chasing money as I want to own and experience those cars I’ve dreamed about since I was a kid. So why would chasing money be bad?

Enter Bobby:

I’m about to tell you why chasing money is not necessarily a bad thing and what they really mean by not chasing money.

Chasing money itself is not a bad thing.

Lets get that straight.

Now, if you really want to be wealthy, it will hurt you being wealthy.

Simply because chasing money is like chasing sex.

Yes, we’ll get some sex by chasing it.

Though what could we do to get more of it, from a higher quality person we want to truly be with?

By exchanging something of value for it.

And no, I’m not talking about money.

Sometimes money can be exchanged for it, though those transactions are usually not good in the long run, like chasing money.

What I mean by exchanging something of value for sex means instead of focusing specifically on getting sex, we focus on becoming a great person an awesome partner would want to be with.

The person who would be giving us the sex, would be giving it instead out of love and basic need to reproduce and connect with us on a deeper level.

What we get is sex, we become better people, and we have a better relationship at the same time.

There are easy ways to get sex, paying for it or lying for it, though in the long run it doesn’t play very well.

Money works the same way.

We can “try” to get a million dollars by trying to get 1 dollar from a million people (chain letters, lies, faking it) or we could give value to a million people and ask for a dollar in return.

Chasing money itself means we are chasing something that is ONLY an exchange of value.

Paper money has no value, only the value we give to it (and soon enough it will be worthless in many countries, think hyper inflation in Zimbabwe, or some countries I have visited, Vietnam – which actually has a functioning currency, though they will run into their own problems soon, too much money printing with NO VALUE BEHIND IT, hint hint, USA and other countries).

So when a person says don’t chase money, it means don’t chase it because it has no value! Yes we could use bad means to get it, though those don’t last and we’ll eventually be found out.

But if we had tons of clients giving us money because of the value we provide for them, we are not chasing money, but instead thinking of what we can do for other people.

Back to sex. Sex can be exchanged for money, it has it’s own value to different people.

Some people won’t sell sex for money, though they’ll sell it for company, for dinner, for many other things.

Though remember, it’s just a medium of exchange, if you think of it like economics, it’s a give and take world.

Now, to add one more layer to this, if we focus on contributing to make another person’s life better AND our own at the same time, we don’t need to chase money.

Win/Win situations, as much as they are talked about, is what we should focus on.

Is my employer fairly paying me and am I contributing a lot of value? We can work together to make both more true.

Are my clients getting a ton of value from the work I’m producing or am I trying to cut corners and time because they’ll pay me anyway?

This is jumping into the realm of abundance and scarcity, which is another ball game.

Just to sum it up with abundance and scarcity.

People who usually chase money, live in a world of scarcity (there is not enough resources).

People who usually chase giving value to other people AND themselves, live in a world of abundance (there is more then enough resources, lets build this together!).

This is a pretty long message for your question. Does this make sense?

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Lifehacks

Little Tweaks In Life

Much of the time, it’s the little tweaks in life that will make a big difference.

Spend 2 hours before bed off the computer, get better sleep.

Read a self help book for 30 minutes per day, it will add up.

Drink more water per day, your health will improve.

Most of these tweaks are habits and don’t require much effort after the first 30 days.

The first 30 days is the hardest.

Though with those litte tweaks, life will dramatically improve.

Same happens for negative things, one less star bucks drink per day means tons of saved money over time and less sugar, and one star bucks drink per day means more sugar and less money per day.

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Lifehacks

Do You Want Freedom?

Want to know the best way for you to get freedom?

Help other people with expecting anything in return.

Now it’s OK to help people be free in a business and get paid for it, though it’s the act of giving with expecting something in return that throws off karma.

Help someone with whatever it is you can.

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Lifehacks Psychology

Open Letter To My Father

Dear Dad,

I forgive you.

You may never read this letter, though that’s OK.

I know you haven’t talked to us for over 19 years now.

I know that you’ve had our phone number for many years.

I know that you have many other children and many other wives.

It’s OK dad.

I forgive you.

Don’t feel any shame when you think about me.

I’ve grown up to be a wonderful man.

I’m surrounded by wonderful and loving people.

I love everyone now, when I use to hold contempt for most people.

I use to think from a scarcity mindset, but I realize the world is abundant.

I appreciate you helping me be born into the world.

I realize I am a combination of you and my mom.

I forgive my hatred and spite toward you.

I can finally move on and start loving other people truly.

I apologize for holding a grudge for many years, you may not have known about it, though I apologize anyway.

I am the change I want to see in the world.

Thank you being alive, and I want the best for you.

Live everyday fully and love your kids and wife deeply.

Thank you again, for bringing me into this world dad.

Now I’m going to change the world, and make it a better place.

This is all thanks to you.

Sincerely with love from your son,

 

 

Bobby Huang

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Lifehacks Psychology

The Great Version Of Your Lover

Appreciate who your lover is.

Appreciate the vision you have for them, the potential you see in them.

Complaints from your lover has, have positive intentions behind the negativity.

Look closely and you’ll find the love behind it.

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Lifehacks Psychology

All Of Life Boils Down To Two Things

Every solution, every problem revolves around these two things.

If you read the books and meditate on these two items, you can cure all of life’s problems and make life far better in whatever way you define as better.

These first of these two things are, past, present future. The second thing is scarcity and abundance.

If you truly understand these concepts, life becomes more simple and easier to live and get results out of life.

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Lifehacks Psychology

The Biggest Difference Between Being Successful And Unsuccessful

It boils down to 2 simple things.

Unsuccessful people make their decisions slowly (even if they have all the information), and change their minds quickly at the drop of a needle.

Successful people make their decisions quickly (when they have enough information), and slowly change their minds if ever.

 

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Lifehacks Productivity

Mastermind Groups Will Change Your Life

Mastermind groups are powerful, they will change your life and make it better in one way or another.

That is unless you are surrounded by people who don’t care for change.

Your Mastermind group doesn’t even need to be people alive, they can be people from throughout history as your advisors.

Some of the most successful people have virtual mastermind groups, where when they close their eyes, they can get feedback from the great people of history.

They help them make great decisions.

What exactly is a Mastermind group?

It’s a group of people who are there to help you get to where you want to be faster.

You want to do the same for each member.

My Mastermind meets weekly and we just finished a call a few hours ago.

We are from all over the world.

We still meet consistently.

Today they helped me plan out some marketing and business strategies to make more sales for one of my products and brands.

It was very helpful and if each person charged individually what they normally charge for one hour, that call would have costed me thousands of dollars.

Start working on finding a Mastermind today.

A great place to start is at seminars of like minded people.

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Lifehacks Psychology

It’s difficult

It is difficult to take action.

It is difficult to start our own businesses.

But the payoff is so rewarding, it’s worth it.

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Lifehacks Psychology

Stopping Bad Habits

Want to know the easiest way to stop a bad habit?

I’ll tell you in a little bit.

First, let me tell you how I have a certain bad habit I will stop today.

This bad habit has ruined many relationships for me and pushed many people away.

This habit comes out of scarcity, as if there is not enough in the world in relationships and that I must hoard and protect the person from other people’s influence.

This caused the opposite reaction from the people I was trying to hoard.

In the short term, the person I was trying to hoard would listen to me.

But slowly over time influence from other people started to kick in.

Other people would start saying bad things about me and start influencing them away from me.

Opposite effect of what I wanted.

This all came from a scarcity mindset, and I’m quickly making abundance a conscious decision.

I’m starting to tell myself, to care for, love, and appreciate everyone.

Be positive to everyone and welcome everyone into my life. I will still keep negative people at a far distance, though I will start saying positive things about people.

Now do you want to know the secret of stopping bad habits?

I already told you.

If you really want to know, let me know by a comment below.

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Lifehacks Psychology

People Are The Same After High School/College

Except for two things.

The books that we read.

And the people we meet.

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Lifehacks Productivity

Make Habits Into an RPG!

I love playing RPGs.

The quick progression and leveling up is constant fun for me.

Improving of stats and other things too.

Recently I found a cool habit based game that I can level up a character with, with my own good habits.

I highly recommend you check it out, it’s called Habitrpg.

It’s currently being swarmed with users, so forgive it for having bugs and downtime!

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Lifehacks Psychology

Life Is Great

Our beliefs determine our reality.

Our reality does not determine our beliefs (unless we choose to let it happen).

Life is great, even if life sucks.

Life is great, even if bad things happen.

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Lifehacks Productivity Psychology

Learning Slower Because Of Certain Music?

There is certain music that has been “proven” to increase brain activity in certain areas. I’ll tell you 6 specific songs in another post.

There also has been certain music that has been proven to decrease brain activity in certain areas.

These certain areas are our ability to learn, our engagement, and overall how well we learn something.

Remember, learning = behavior change.

I would venture to say, a majority of people listen to the 2nd type of music, the one that decreases function in the brain.

Not because they truly want to, but because it’s easier and gives short term gratification.

The long term damaging effects out weigh the short term benefits, though its very difficult for us to see it because the short term is hard to see because it’s what we live in.

Then we start to ignore the long term pain of what it causes us because it makes our daily lives easier.

Similar to smoking.

Smokers enjoy the short term benefits (which don’t last very long) and then they start ignoring the long term damages.

Life is pretty easy if we think of it in a certain way.

If we choose to live by the long term, life becomes easy in our daily lives.

It might take more “effort” in the short term, though the benefits far out weigh the cost of “effort” we spend.

The certain type of music I’ll tell you that helps you learn faster is more geared toward classical.

There are 6 specific songs that help increase what you learn.

It also might help you do more work better.

I’ll start you off with a place to look, Mozart.

He is not the only one, though it’s a good place to start.

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Lifehacks Marketing

Marketing Has A Bad Rep

It’s the story many of us tell ourselves.

“I hate sales people, I hate advertising and marketing, it’s so annoying.”

The thing is, marketing is story telling, and we tell ourselves stories all day.

Even the story about hating marketers.

All day we do marketing. We make other people believe our story about who we are and we even believe the story itself.

When we teach kids how to be great people, we are marketing to them that our idea/story is the good one to follow.

Sometimes we make the mistake of saying it’s better for them when it’s really not.

We also sometimes make the mistake of telling them they should follow what we say without telling them why or what reason we have.

If we don’t tell them why or how it benefits them, 33% or more of kids and our audience stop listening.

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Lifehacks

When At Fancy Dinners, Which Drink Is Yours?

When you are at a fancy dinner, they always place certain items in specific locations.

If you grab someone else’s drink or bread, other people will look at you in a certain negative way.

It’s very simple to know which drinks and bread are yours!

Check out the pic below and use this to remember!

At Fancy Dinners, How To Figure Out Which Drink And Bread Is YOurs

In case you don’t know, B = Bread, D = Drink.

If you put this hand symbol around your eyeballs, you become batman.

Duhnuhnuhnuhnuh Batman.