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Why “Do What You Love” Is Wrong To Tell Anyone

I was just reading an article today and it had a lot of different tips by entrepreneurs and this showed up at least 3 times in 7 tips.

They say, “do what you love.”

That’s completely wrong.

Especially when we tell that to a person who doesn’t really know what we mean.

Many entrepreneurs assume another person knows exactly what we mean when we say it.

Most people who hear that phrase have objections such as:

“People don’t make money doing what I love”

“People won’t pay me for that”

“It’s not possible”

Basically what happens here is a piece of advice is given that is not able to be understand by the average person who doesn’t read or study methods to do what we love and make money at the same time.

But even then, there are many things we love doing that we are not able to make money with.

It would be crazy to expect to make $1,000,000,000 by just watching TV all day. We might love watching TV but it’s not going to make us successful.

What entrepreneurs do when they truly love what they are doing is they consciously chose to do something and started to love it later.

It also happened to be profitable or someone showed them how to make money doing it.

For example, a lot of people don’t start out loving the new CD of an artist they like.

They listen to it, and it sounds ok, but as they listen to it more and more, they start liking it more and more.

Repetition causes us to view things differently and maybe even love what we are doing.

Many entrepreneurs don’t start out liking marketing. Some absolutely hate it.

But personally, I didn’t know anything about it and I always thought marketing was for scum bags.

Then I discovered all marketing really is when boiled down to an ethical way of doing things is to help people find solutions to their problems.

And now I spend 8 hours a day or longer helping people find solutions to their problems and I LOVE to do this. And I make money at the same time.

Marketing aligned with where I want to be in life which allows me to love it.

I wouldn’t love tricking people or creating marketing for something I don’t find good and ethical (I have turned down many deals worth a lot of money on this basis).

What I’m basically saying is this.

We can become very successful by doing what we love, though usually we have to truly find out what we love to do and many times we have to start loving what we do learn.

That means, sometimes we start doing something we hate or don’t like at all, though doing it over and over again, we start to like what we do and it has a bigger meaning to it for us.

For example, Zig Ziglar talks about in one of his tapes about a positive Doctor.

Zig says we should find a positive doctor who follows his own advice.

Zig had a thin athletic doctor that told Zig he could eat whatever he wanted to eat to lose weight.

He was just going to give Zig a list of what Zig was going to want.

So when someone says, “Do What You Love” sometimes it means to love what you do, then doing what you love becomes true.

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Psychology

Master These Two Things

As I read books, study, and awaken my consciousness even more, I find that I always am pondering these two things.

As I ponder these two things, I find myself focusing on making them better, and focusing on the aspect that will help me grow faster.

What if I told you life was simple it was true? What if we were able to boil it down into these two simple things and make life a whole lot better?

Would it be easier for you to focus on these two things and ignore tons of other theories and concepts?

I think yes to that last question there.

There are two aspects of life that if we could focus on making better it will effect the rest of our lives.

The first one is Scarcity and Abundance.

Do we think there is limited resources in the world, or unlimited resources we can tap into?

Where do you live from?

Do you hide your ideas from other people?

Do you give your ideas freely to other people?

Is there enough food in your house to make everyone who visits you full or do you ration your food because you want to make sure everyone gets their fair share?

There is no simple answer to these questions and there is no wrong or right answer.

I just think a certain type of person leans more toward abundance than scarcity and if we live from abundance realizing there is a huge world out there we can utilize, the world will get better as will our own world.

The second item of two things to master is how we live our life, more directly, where we live in a sense of past, present, and future.

Do you worry about the past? Do you live in today? Do you worry about the future?

What influences your action the most?

How do you interact with people? Do interact with today or do you interact from the past?

Do you hold grudges or look forward? Do you prepare or are you unprepared?

Again, there is no right or wrong answer to these questions.

I personally think and understand that a person who lives in the present, is a person who brings a lot to people.

When I say live in the present, it’s not that disregard the past or the future, it’s that they appreciate and live a great life as they grow.

One could say they live everyday to the fullest and more.

Do you want to know more about this and why it’s important to master these two things and actually how to master them more?

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Lifehacks Psychology

Quora Question: What does it really mean to stop chasing money or you’ll never get rich?

What does it really mean to stop chasing money or you’ll never get rich?

So I’ve heard this a million times and to chase your passion blah blah. I have turned this quote over and over in my head, what does this really mean? I chase money and it is my biggest dream in life to become really successful as my biggest passion is cars and I want to be able to own and work on any car I wish.

I am perfectly happy and grateful with who I am and what I have. However, I always see myself chasing money as I want to own and experience those cars I’ve dreamed about since I was a kid. So why would chasing money be bad?

Enter Bobby:

I’m about to tell you why chasing money is not necessarily a bad thing and what they really mean by not chasing money.

Chasing money itself is not a bad thing.

Lets get that straight.

Now, if you really want to be wealthy, it will hurt you being wealthy.

Simply because chasing money is like chasing sex.

Yes, we’ll get some sex by chasing it.

Though what could we do to get more of it, from a higher quality person we want to truly be with?

By exchanging something of value for it.

And no, I’m not talking about money.

Sometimes money can be exchanged for it, though those transactions are usually not good in the long run, like chasing money.

What I mean by exchanging something of value for sex means instead of focusing specifically on getting sex, we focus on becoming a great person an awesome partner would want to be with.

The person who would be giving us the sex, would be giving it instead out of love and basic need to reproduce and connect with us on a deeper level.

What we get is sex, we become better people, and we have a better relationship at the same time.

There are easy ways to get sex, paying for it or lying for it, though in the long run it doesn’t play very well.

Money works the same way.

We can “try” to get a million dollars by trying to get 1 dollar from a million people (chain letters, lies, faking it) or we could give value to a million people and ask for a dollar in return.

Chasing money itself means we are chasing something that is ONLY an exchange of value.

Paper money has no value, only the value we give to it (and soon enough it will be worthless in many countries, think hyper inflation in Zimbabwe, or some countries I have visited, Vietnam – which actually has a functioning currency, though they will run into their own problems soon, too much money printing with NO VALUE BEHIND IT, hint hint, USA and other countries).

So when a person says don’t chase money, it means don’t chase it because it has no value! Yes we could use bad means to get it, though those don’t last and we’ll eventually be found out.

But if we had tons of clients giving us money because of the value we provide for them, we are not chasing money, but instead thinking of what we can do for other people.

Back to sex. Sex can be exchanged for money, it has it’s own value to different people.

Some people won’t sell sex for money, though they’ll sell it for company, for dinner, for many other things.

Though remember, it’s just a medium of exchange, if you think of it like economics, it’s a give and take world.

Now, to add one more layer to this, if we focus on contributing to make another person’s life better AND our own at the same time, we don’t need to chase money.

Win/Win situations, as much as they are talked about, is what we should focus on.

Is my employer fairly paying me and am I contributing a lot of value? We can work together to make both more true.

Are my clients getting a ton of value from the work I’m producing or am I trying to cut corners and time because they’ll pay me anyway?

This is jumping into the realm of abundance and scarcity, which is another ball game.

Just to sum it up with abundance and scarcity.

People who usually chase money, live in a world of scarcity (there is not enough resources).

People who usually chase giving value to other people AND themselves, live in a world of abundance (there is more then enough resources, lets build this together!).

This is a pretty long message for your question. Does this make sense?

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Psychology

The Average Wage In This Country in 2012 was $1,540

The average wage in 2012 in Vietnam was $1,540 USD.

I spend about 467% ($7,200) more per year just on living expenses here (which is higher than some foreigners and lower than others).

In the USA I would spend 1051% ($16,200) on living expenses alone.

I’ve met the folks who make the average wage and more. Many of them don’t live in poverty luckily, they still have basic needs life food and shelter, and really cheap cell phones.

Though they do eat cheaper food and yes a lot of them live at home or live with 6 people in a studio/1 bedroom apartment.

Many of these folks would still send money to their families, and have barely enough left over to eat and pay for living expenses and when they are lucky, go enjoy a splurge out on the town (probably under $5 anyway).

Why do I mention all this? It’s not for you to feel sorry for these people.

It’s because I personally truly appreciate everything I have. I show my gratitude for what I have.

What are you grateful for today?

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Psychology

Gratitude

Everyday I list 5 things I’m grateful for.

They are simple things.

Sometimes the names of certain people in my life.

Many times I list life, love, friendship and other items as things I’m grateful for.

The funny thing is, as I list these items, they come into my life more, in a positive way because I start changing my behavior and showing actions of gratitude to people and things in my life.

I appreciate you who reads these words.

I don’t write these words for you. I write these words for me and you.

Lets appreciate the world together, because true happiness comes from wanting what we have.

I have so much, and I will fight for what I have and keep making it better.

That doesn’t mean I don’t want more, I totally want more. Though I’m going to appreciate what I have.

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Psychology

Sometimes Bad Things Need To Happen

So that we can appreciate the good.

There is always something positive, even to the most negative of acts in our lives.

If we fine the beauty in it, we can grow faster and in an amazing way.

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Psychology

EQ, IQ, DQ?

What is the most important human ability in todays society?

Is it intelligence?

Is it physical body?

Is it looks?

It’s actually something so much more simple.

It’s what nearly ALL successful people and employees have.

It’s emotional intelligence.

It’s the ability to manage ones self, manage ones emotions, be socially aware and manage relationships.

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Psychology

Recycling Wastes More Resources Than It Saves

But for some reason we ignore this.

Why do we ignore this?

Because of the story we tell ourselves.

 

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Lifehacks Psychology

Open Letter To My Father

Dear Dad,

I forgive you.

You may never read this letter, though that’s OK.

I know you haven’t talked to us for over 19 years now.

I know that you’ve had our phone number for many years.

I know that you have many other children and many other wives.

It’s OK dad.

I forgive you.

Don’t feel any shame when you think about me.

I’ve grown up to be a wonderful man.

I’m surrounded by wonderful and loving people.

I love everyone now, when I use to hold contempt for most people.

I use to think from a scarcity mindset, but I realize the world is abundant.

I appreciate you helping me be born into the world.

I realize I am a combination of you and my mom.

I forgive my hatred and spite toward you.

I can finally move on and start loving other people truly.

I apologize for holding a grudge for many years, you may not have known about it, though I apologize anyway.

I am the change I want to see in the world.

Thank you being alive, and I want the best for you.

Live everyday fully and love your kids and wife deeply.

Thank you again, for bringing me into this world dad.

Now I’m going to change the world, and make it a better place.

This is all thanks to you.

Sincerely with love from your son,

 

 

Bobby Huang

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Lifehacks Psychology

The Great Version Of Your Lover

Appreciate who your lover is.

Appreciate the vision you have for them, the potential you see in them.

Complaints from your lover has, have positive intentions behind the negativity.

Look closely and you’ll find the love behind it.

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Psychology

There Are Many Things Behind Anger

There are so many other emotions behind anger.

Face the anger and pin point where it really comes from.

It’s usually not about the person in front of you.

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Lifehacks Psychology

All Of Life Boils Down To Two Things

Every solution, every problem revolves around these two things.

If you read the books and meditate on these two items, you can cure all of life’s problems and make life far better in whatever way you define as better.

These first of these two things are, past, present future. The second thing is scarcity and abundance.

If you truly understand these concepts, life becomes more simple and easier to live and get results out of life.

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Psychology

Seeing Is Believing, Sometimes…

I’m a huge supporter of Believing is Seeing.

This mindset means that we will see what we believe to be true.

This is a great mindset when we are OPEN MINDED to a great future, and looking for positive change.

This mindset doesn’t work though when we are FOOLING ourselves.

Fooling ourselves into thinking everything is fine.

Fooling ourselves into believing everything is fine when in reality it is not.

This means we might believe something and see it in a way we want, but we might not be truly seeing it for what it really is (think of falling in love as an example).

Sometimes we fall in love with someone and believe what we want to see, and ignore reality.

We ignore the small things they do to annoy us and ignore the huge potential problems we’ll face in the future with them.

This is where sometimes Seeing is Believing comes into play.

Sometimes we truly have to see something, to understand the reality of the situation.

The high level and mid level managers of the New York Police Department believed the numbers they were told in the 1990s.

Only 3% of crime in New York happens in the Subways. So they stuck to their status quo that the subway was fine.

The public called it the Electric Sewer.

When the new police commissioner came in, he made himself and other high level to mid level managers in the NYPD ride the subway day and night.

They started seeing why it was called the Electric Sewer, because there were many aggressive beggars, gangs roaming around threatening people, people jumping from different subway platforms to others.

They started to see why the public boycotted the system.

They started to believe what they saw, because sometimes we need to see something to believe it.

Truly see it.

For all it’s true colors.

Then change can be possible in this situation.

The situation of denial and sticking to the status quo.

What have you been in denial about?

What status quo are you sticking to?

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Lifehacks Psychology

The Biggest Difference Between Being Successful And Unsuccessful

It boils down to 2 simple things.

Unsuccessful people make their decisions slowly (even if they have all the information), and change their minds quickly at the drop of a needle.

Successful people make their decisions quickly (when they have enough information), and slowly change their minds if ever.

 

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Psychology

Which Brain Do You Function From?

Humans have been known to have 3 brains we operate from, it’s the triune brain theory.

We’ve been developing brains over our brains, layer after layer as we have evolved as humans.

The earliest one we have is the lizard brain.

This is our fear and survival brain that kept us alive when sabertooth tigers attacked.

We have the mammal brain.

This is where our emotions come from.

Then we have the conscious brain.

This is the one we use to think, it’s what makes us human.

Most humans think they are rational creatures who function from this brain.

We don’t mainly, we are influenced by our other two brains.

Humans are irrational creatures, we make decisions for the weirdest reasons before it hits our rational brain.

Then we rationalize it.

Did you know our decisions are made seconds before our conscious brain makes it?

 

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Lifehacks Psychology

It’s difficult

It is difficult to take action.

It is difficult to start our own businesses.

But the payoff is so rewarding, it’s worth it.

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Lifehacks Psychology

Stopping Bad Habits

Want to know the easiest way to stop a bad habit?

I’ll tell you in a little bit.

First, let me tell you how I have a certain bad habit I will stop today.

This bad habit has ruined many relationships for me and pushed many people away.

This habit comes out of scarcity, as if there is not enough in the world in relationships and that I must hoard and protect the person from other people’s influence.

This caused the opposite reaction from the people I was trying to hoard.

In the short term, the person I was trying to hoard would listen to me.

But slowly over time influence from other people started to kick in.

Other people would start saying bad things about me and start influencing them away from me.

Opposite effect of what I wanted.

This all came from a scarcity mindset, and I’m quickly making abundance a conscious decision.

I’m starting to tell myself, to care for, love, and appreciate everyone.

Be positive to everyone and welcome everyone into my life. I will still keep negative people at a far distance, though I will start saying positive things about people.

Now do you want to know the secret of stopping bad habits?

I already told you.

If you really want to know, let me know by a comment below.

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Lifehacks Psychology

People Are The Same After High School/College

Except for two things.

The books that we read.

And the people we meet.

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Lifehacks Psychology

Life Is Great

Our beliefs determine our reality.

Our reality does not determine our beliefs (unless we choose to let it happen).

Life is great, even if life sucks.

Life is great, even if bad things happen.

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Lifehacks Productivity Psychology

Learning Slower Because Of Certain Music?

There is certain music that has been “proven” to increase brain activity in certain areas. I’ll tell you 6 specific songs in another post.

There also has been certain music that has been proven to decrease brain activity in certain areas.

These certain areas are our ability to learn, our engagement, and overall how well we learn something.

Remember, learning = behavior change.

I would venture to say, a majority of people listen to the 2nd type of music, the one that decreases function in the brain.

Not because they truly want to, but because it’s easier and gives short term gratification.

The long term damaging effects out weigh the short term benefits, though its very difficult for us to see it because the short term is hard to see because it’s what we live in.

Then we start to ignore the long term pain of what it causes us because it makes our daily lives easier.

Similar to smoking.

Smokers enjoy the short term benefits (which don’t last very long) and then they start ignoring the long term damages.

Life is pretty easy if we think of it in a certain way.

If we choose to live by the long term, life becomes easy in our daily lives.

It might take more “effort” in the short term, though the benefits far out weigh the cost of “effort” we spend.

The certain type of music I’ll tell you that helps you learn faster is more geared toward classical.

There are 6 specific songs that help increase what you learn.

It also might help you do more work better.

I’ll start you off with a place to look, Mozart.

He is not the only one, though it’s a good place to start.